Pasadena divorce lawyers often recommend co-parenting to divorcing couples who have a healthy line of communication and who appear to be good candidates for the arrangement. But it certainly isn't for every couple. It requires a lot of work with your former spouse and a removal of ego in favor of doing what's best for the children. Actress Olivia D'Abo, who rose to fame in the 1980s on the sitcom The Wonder Years, recently spoke to Celebrity Baby Scoop about the ups and downs of parenting with a spouse after a divorce.

D'Abo has a fifteen-year-old son named Oliver and is one of the few celebrities who opted for co-parenting as a solution after her divorce.

"After my relationship ended with Oliver's dad, I met and married my husband Patrick when Oliver was just 5 years old so really the three of us have all been co-parenting Oliver for about 10 years," she says. "It's been a work in progress and at first it was challenging but now we all appreciate how much support we have and so does Oliver. I think we all feel like we've achieved something really special and important, as it's been proven through hard work that it can be quite fluid."

But the threesome didn't click on parenting overnight; in fact, the arrangement took some time.

"It takes time to see where your strengths and weaknesses lie and who should take the lead in certain areas at certain times," D'Abo admits.

The actress thinks if the communication is healthy between exes, then co-parenting can be wonderful. Strict scheduling and discipline, she says, are the keys to successful co-parenting.

"A good important tip when co-parenting is that selfishness and your own need for self-satisfaction has to go out the window," she notes. "For example, it shouldn't be about who gets more time. It should always be about what's right for the child in that particular moment. If the parents live apart it's really wise to draw up and lay out a proper schedule at the beginning of each year that you're absolutely sure you can stick to for everyone's comfort level, most importantly for your child, so they feel the organization is dealt with between the adults ahead of time. The most important thing a parent can do is stay neutral for their child so you never bring them into any unnecessary tension. If you can pull that off your child will only benefit.